As some of you know I talk to Lottie most every day of the week. And today she gave me a gift that I feel I'm going to love for the rst of my life! It's call 30 day Challenge. There are a few to pick from and do. We have pick one off together and will work on it together. I'm looking forward to doing this with her. I just wanted to pass on the web page. http://www.reviveourhearts.com/challenge/ I hope you all take a look at it.
A challenge in our house right now is asking others if they need help, and getting our 3 year to do it to. It's funny when she ask.."Mom, do you need me to help you?" And when I say yes, she says to me "man I was just asking to be nice, now I have to do it!!" She makes me laught all day!
The other challenge is knowing when to ask for help! And we are all working on both of them. It's going well! I think!
Life is a challenge and trying to let the girls know that and not make them dislike life at the same time is becoming a challenge. Getting them to see that it's be like this from day one and we need to ask God for help! And most of the time we do not till it's almost to late!
We know that God loves us, and he shows us all the time. We challenge you all to show others God love by asking them what you can do to help them today! But at the same time know when you need to ask for help from God, or someone else.
God loves us, and wants us to love each other. And in today world that's not showen like it should be.
Monday, March 15, 2010
Monday, March 1, 2010
for who a person is not what a person is!!
Sorry it's been so long! I have been with family and working on something within my family. And over the past two weeks or so the girls and I went up north to Evart to stay with my Grandma and helped her out with something. Due to the fact that she had surgary on her hand and is now in a cast. So I was able to take this and show the girls that we need to serve others and show all love. We got to spend sometime with my grandma too. It's always great time.
Now here comes the big things that I wanted to talk about, showing others love!! How many people say that they show love to others but at the sametime will stand there and say well I can not talk to that person due to the fact he or she is black, has a beer here and there. Or maybe it's something a little bigger like being gay, or something even bigger, like a handiecap?! Are you showing these peope love? I have seen it, and I think how can people do that just because of "what this person is" not who the person is. I'm trying very hard to teah my girls that it's okay to make up their own mind and I want them to. But I also want them to like/dislike a person for "who they are" not "what they are" And you may look at that and ask what am I saying. This is what I'm saying, it's find if my girls want to be friends with the girl next door because they like her and she nice, but it's not okay if they are friends with her because she rich and she gives them things. But it goes the other way too, to be a nice girl but have a learening disorder and have kids and other people be mean to you. I have seen this happend, and it's been done to people that I love and seen me. It's hard to be on the down side of that. And it hurts me to say this.
So here it goes. I have has a learening Disorder for years and I still do and will to the day that I die. But have found, ways around it and work every hard each and everyday. And the summer after I was done with high school I was working out at a church camp in the same town that I grow-up in. And I was doing great out there I was running a kitchen and I had made a list of things that needed to be done and posted it for all to see it. I had a adult start laughting, and was pointing at the list, and calling the other works over and showing them the list and more and more of them starting laughting. And when I walk over there, and ask what they were all laughting at, they ask me to read what I had on the list. So I did and they laught harder and harder. And me asking them over and over what was up and no one would let me. Till later a man came in his name is Mike, and they were all still laughting and he ask what was up and they showed him, and he did something that I will never for get. He took down the list and rewrote it for me with no misspelled words. I love the work I did in the kitchen but the day I left work before my end time witch I did not do, I stayed late most nights. But that night I went home crying becasue of people laughting, because of what I am. And if they would have know me for who I am they would not be laughting at me.
I have seen people be so nice to people that they have never seen before, and may never see again. But they know my mom and know that she is gay and can not say two words to her because of that. Not because of who she is but because of what she is.
It's hard and everyone does it, and I'm working every hard to show my girls that we never to show love and get to know people before making up our minds.
Now here comes the big things that I wanted to talk about, showing others love!! How many people say that they show love to others but at the sametime will stand there and say well I can not talk to that person due to the fact he or she is black, has a beer here and there. Or maybe it's something a little bigger like being gay, or something even bigger, like a handiecap?! Are you showing these peope love? I have seen it, and I think how can people do that just because of "what this person is" not who the person is. I'm trying very hard to teah my girls that it's okay to make up their own mind and I want them to. But I also want them to like/dislike a person for "who they are" not "what they are" And you may look at that and ask what am I saying. This is what I'm saying, it's find if my girls want to be friends with the girl next door because they like her and she nice, but it's not okay if they are friends with her because she rich and she gives them things. But it goes the other way too, to be a nice girl but have a learening disorder and have kids and other people be mean to you. I have seen this happend, and it's been done to people that I love and seen me. It's hard to be on the down side of that. And it hurts me to say this.
So here it goes. I have has a learening Disorder for years and I still do and will to the day that I die. But have found, ways around it and work every hard each and everyday. And the summer after I was done with high school I was working out at a church camp in the same town that I grow-up in. And I was doing great out there I was running a kitchen and I had made a list of things that needed to be done and posted it for all to see it. I had a adult start laughting, and was pointing at the list, and calling the other works over and showing them the list and more and more of them starting laughting. And when I walk over there, and ask what they were all laughting at, they ask me to read what I had on the list. So I did and they laught harder and harder. And me asking them over and over what was up and no one would let me. Till later a man came in his name is Mike, and they were all still laughting and he ask what was up and they showed him, and he did something that I will never for get. He took down the list and rewrote it for me with no misspelled words. I love the work I did in the kitchen but the day I left work before my end time witch I did not do, I stayed late most nights. But that night I went home crying becasue of people laughting, because of what I am. And if they would have know me for who I am they would not be laughting at me.
I have seen people be so nice to people that they have never seen before, and may never see again. But they know my mom and know that she is gay and can not say two words to her because of that. Not because of who she is but because of what she is.
It's hard and everyone does it, and I'm working every hard to show my girls that we never to show love and get to know people before making up our minds.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
what it takes to make a marine family
This one is just for fun!!
1- Marine
1- wife
kids to teast
1 cup nights apart
1 cup boot camp
3 cups love
5 cups GOD
a dash of fear
a dash of pain
1 Bible
let set for for 7 months
at this point you may need to add another kid to teast.
let set for another 7 months
mix and redo for the next 20+ years
after 20+ year you will have a marine family for life
1- Marine
1- wife
kids to teast
1 cup nights apart
1 cup boot camp
3 cups love
5 cups GOD
a dash of fear
a dash of pain
1 Bible
let set for for 7 months
at this point you may need to add another kid to teast.
let set for another 7 months
mix and redo for the next 20+ years
after 20+ year you will have a marine family for life
Sunday, February 7, 2010
Saving BIG!!!!
I have been told that we must have debt up the butt, because our kids are in nice name brand clothes. And that we go out to eat once a week or so. We have newer cars than most our age. And I understand where they are coming from and with being in the military everyone knows or can find out how much we make. And just so that you all know we are making 2100 a month and that is without BAH (witch is for rent due to the fact that we are not living on base) I fell that my kids should have the best and I want to give it to them and now that you know what we make you can see why it would be hard. When we were living on base we could spend $120 on food for the month and people would ask me know and did not think that we could with all the food we would get. And the thing is we did it with coupons! And I use them a ton! It's free money in my eyes! So why not use them. I remember one time we went and had two shopping carts of food and had to pay just $125 for it all! And we had save $95 in coupons! Yes it takes time and the first few times it will take a lot longer in the store but it's do able. Here is something that some people do not know is if the store is having 2/ $4 you do not have to get 2 you can get 1/ $2 if you just need one, and with those deal you can use coupons also. Take your time and look to see what's on sale.
A tip for shopping on line, type in online coupons and see if you can get free shipping, or 50% off it's takes just a minute and can save you a ton of the course of a year. So do not think that it only $10 this time it's not a big deal, because it is. Something else that I do that's online that is "free money" is my points. You sign up for it and they will send you emails, and all you have to do is open them and click on get points and they will give you 5 points. And I like to do shopping online and you can shop through them and get point and by doing it that way you get more points. And when you get so many point you can cash them in and get gift cards to stores, restaurant or even airline miles!! I would when you get a chance take a look!
And shopping for things for the girls. SALES!!!! We took a shopping trip to day and got the girls some new clothes for the upcoming summer and without the sales it would have been $468.50 that's a little much! When I walk in to a store I walk right to the sale racks! And I will ask if they do any discounts, and look online to see if there is any coupons that you can print and take with you. So with that said today I spent $162.62!! That's $300 off!! Now that's more like it and I will take the time to save that. So what makes the $300 any different than $10 nothings in my eyes!
Matthew works hard for the money he gets for us and I know that everyone works hard for the money they get for their family. So I need to work hard to make that money go as far as I can for my family. There will be more money saving tips to come. This was just a fast look at what we do and will take a better look at each one at a later time.
A tip for shopping on line, type in online coupons and see if you can get free shipping, or 50% off it's takes just a minute and can save you a ton of the course of a year. So do not think that it only $10 this time it's not a big deal, because it is. Something else that I do that's online that is "free money" is my points. You sign up for it and they will send you emails, and all you have to do is open them and click on get points and they will give you 5 points. And I like to do shopping online and you can shop through them and get point and by doing it that way you get more points. And when you get so many point you can cash them in and get gift cards to stores, restaurant or even airline miles!! I would when you get a chance take a look!
And shopping for things for the girls. SALES!!!! We took a shopping trip to day and got the girls some new clothes for the upcoming summer and without the sales it would have been $468.50 that's a little much! When I walk in to a store I walk right to the sale racks! And I will ask if they do any discounts, and look online to see if there is any coupons that you can print and take with you. So with that said today I spent $162.62!! That's $300 off!! Now that's more like it and I will take the time to save that. So what makes the $300 any different than $10 nothings in my eyes!
Matthew works hard for the money he gets for us and I know that everyone works hard for the money they get for their family. So I need to work hard to make that money go as far as I can for my family. There will be more money saving tips to come. This was just a fast look at what we do and will take a better look at each one at a later time.
Thursday, February 4, 2010
~year 3~
So we are at the start of our 3rd year and what a great start it was to watch the bus pull out of the shop and off base and have Matthew be on it!! My hart was falling apart! What was a new mom to do I have this new baby just three months old and my best friend is going to be gone for 7+ months!
Andrew was getting ready to leave again just a few weeks later and they were giving up their house and movied in with me. And after Andrew left it was just the girls, Eve and I in the house. We were flying back to Michigan to be with family for the holidays. And with my bestest friend in the whole world was getting married right after Christmas. But before that all could happenend Jessalla and I had to make it throw that holidays together and without Matthew. Your baby's 1st anything are surpost to be great. And there were great just not right without Matthew there with us. But we did it and we even did the wedding things just find!
At the time we were in Michigan Jessalla and I lived with my Grandparents! I was glad to be with them and to be able to help them out, and have them get to know Jessalla and the way that great-grandparents should.
The time in Michigan was great but hard! When we got back to Cali in Jan. things seem to go a little better back around people that knew what we were going threw. It was just us girls back at my house. Eve and I would stay up and watch the OC, and Friends it was great! After a few weeks Jessalla and I had to help Eve move in to her new place, it was a sad day.
Matthew was coming back when Jessalla was about 9 1/2 months and with her being 9 months and having Matthew calling saying everyting was great and they were on time. It was the best thing! I had the house clean, and went shopping to get all of his this that he like. I was counting down the days and the night before he called and he was in the states! Man! What a great feeling!! I got off the phone with him and Jessalla WALK!! in to the room I was in! No! She just could not wait!
Matthew made it home jsut fine! We went on our 1st family trip! We went over Matthew's birthday for a week! So much fun! And that's started our summer to next have Jessalla birthday! She was one! Man o Man were did the time go! For the summer we had the girls (Christina and Cammi) out for the summer and took them around to see Cali and to try some new things. And to end the summer and our 3rd year we went back to Michigan to take the girls back home and to see the family.
Andrew was getting ready to leave again just a few weeks later and they were giving up their house and movied in with me. And after Andrew left it was just the girls, Eve and I in the house. We were flying back to Michigan to be with family for the holidays. And with my bestest friend in the whole world was getting married right after Christmas. But before that all could happenend Jessalla and I had to make it throw that holidays together and without Matthew. Your baby's 1st anything are surpost to be great. And there were great just not right without Matthew there with us. But we did it and we even did the wedding things just find!
At the time we were in Michigan Jessalla and I lived with my Grandparents! I was glad to be with them and to be able to help them out, and have them get to know Jessalla and the way that great-grandparents should.
The time in Michigan was great but hard! When we got back to Cali in Jan. things seem to go a little better back around people that knew what we were going threw. It was just us girls back at my house. Eve and I would stay up and watch the OC, and Friends it was great! After a few weeks Jessalla and I had to help Eve move in to her new place, it was a sad day.
Matthew was coming back when Jessalla was about 9 1/2 months and with her being 9 months and having Matthew calling saying everyting was great and they were on time. It was the best thing! I had the house clean, and went shopping to get all of his this that he like. I was counting down the days and the night before he called and he was in the states! Man! What a great feeling!! I got off the phone with him and Jessalla WALK!! in to the room I was in! No! She just could not wait!
Matthew made it home jsut fine! We went on our 1st family trip! We went over Matthew's birthday for a week! So much fun! And that's started our summer to next have Jessalla birthday! She was one! Man o Man were did the time go! For the summer we had the girls (Christina and Cammi) out for the summer and took them around to see Cali and to try some new things. And to end the summer and our 3rd year we went back to Michigan to take the girls back home and to see the family.
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
~year 2~
The 2nd year in just got in to the new unit and first thing they did is sent Matthew out to the field! So I had, that's right you guess it 10 days without Matthew. But Matthew can back fine and we said that we needed to get a house on base and that's what we did and moved in in Oct. I was growing just like I should sad that I was not going to be with my family with the baby coming but knew that I could do it with Matthew and with Eve coming back out. Nov. came and so did the Marine birthday ball, my birthday and Thanksgiving. It was a great month and Matthew was able to pass off not getting me anything for my birthday because of the ball just a few days before. I let it pass!! I had a great time at the ball getting all dress up and having great food! Thanksgiving that year we were in our place on base and had over around 40 people so much fun! That's what I live for! Time went so fast and before we knew it, Christmas was here! We were staying in Cali for it and did not have a ton of money and with just the two of us going to be there we just made cheese burgers for dinner with all the toppings! So great! I think it was around this time that my blood presher started to be a little high. Nothing to bad they just wanted to keep an eye on it. We also found out around this time that Matthew would b going over sea for 7 month in the fall.
The first part of the year went by so fast and before we knew it, it was May. And with us due on May 16 we could not wait. My Dr. told me not to be to mad if she was late most baby do not come on their due dates. I was in the Thursday before she was due and had to see someone different, they said that was no way that I would have her on her due date. He went on to say "I'm never wrong" (never say never, more on that later) Mother's day was that Sunday and that was the 14, well Monday I went in, they sent me home and told me to walk. So we did and I think we played "RISK" if it was not that it was a different game. Yes I was playing games up it we went back in that night and at that time they said that I would be staying with them. We made our phone calls and had Sara come in she was going to be in the room with us. And Jessalla came to meet us at 6:25am on the 16th of May.
The summer went so fast and then it was fall and Aug, once again. On our Annv. Matthew was on lock down due to the fact that he would be leaving the next day to go over seas. So we spent the night packing and getting things around. I wrote Matthew a letter and pack little things in his bags, that the guys may have laugh at him for but I did not care. He told one of Jessalla Care Bears with him. I did not get a lot of sleep that night but I do remember standing in his sea bag trying to get it down. LOL!!!
The first part of the year went by so fast and before we knew it, it was May. And with us due on May 16 we could not wait. My Dr. told me not to be to mad if she was late most baby do not come on their due dates. I was in the Thursday before she was due and had to see someone different, they said that was no way that I would have her on her due date. He went on to say "I'm never wrong" (never say never, more on that later) Mother's day was that Sunday and that was the 14, well Monday I went in, they sent me home and told me to walk. So we did and I think we played "RISK" if it was not that it was a different game. Yes I was playing games up it we went back in that night and at that time they said that I would be staying with them. We made our phone calls and had Sara come in she was going to be in the room with us. And Jessalla came to meet us at 6:25am on the 16th of May.
The summer went so fast and then it was fall and Aug, once again. On our Annv. Matthew was on lock down due to the fact that he would be leaving the next day to go over seas. So we spent the night packing and getting things around. I wrote Matthew a letter and pack little things in his bags, that the guys may have laugh at him for but I did not care. He told one of Jessalla Care Bears with him. I did not get a lot of sleep that night but I do remember standing in his sea bag trying to get it down. LOL!!!
~year 1~
We had been together just less than a year when we got married, and it was a nice wedding with all our family and friends. We got married outside, and our stand ups walk in to a song by the beach boys! So much fun! The food was great made with love from our family. After the wedding we had 10 days together before Matthew left for boot camp in San Diego in Cali. So for that ten days we were together all the time and had some time with our family. Than when that Sunday came and it was time for him to go I took him up to the office and some of our family made it up there to see him off. It was then when he got in to the van that it hint me that I would not see him for 3 months! After Matthew left his sister my "sister-in-love" went out to the movies and had some time together. That night I was able to talk to him because he was still at the hotel here in Michigan. After he made it to San Diego I was able to talk to him just 2 time in the 3 month. The first was to say that he made it, and that he loved me and that was it. The other phone call was to tell me when he would be done and that was 2 1/2 months later. Due to the time of him leaving and whatnot we were apart for hollween, my birthday, and Thanksgiving! It was hard, and at some times slow. But I knew if I could make it to Thanksgiving I would be just fine. Because from Thanksgiving to family thursday was ten days, and I knew what that was like because that's how long we had together after the wedding to the time he left.
After getting back from boot camp were back in Michigan we had ten days together beofre he had to go to work. And going to work was not all that bad. He was home for a month right over Christmas very nice!!! Then he was back to Cali for more training and I stayed back in Michigan. After his month he was move to school and would be there for some time so I was able to go!! Talk about being happy! It was still in Cali just north of where he was in a place called 29 palms. I made it out there in March on the 5th. It maybe the hardest thing I had to do in our first year of being married.
And with all of that in the first 6 month of being married we were together less than 2 months of that. But now we were together and had our own place it was great we were just out there for school so we did not need anything to big, but after having Matthew best friend high school and his family and little bigger place would have been nice. OOO and the whole time they were with us there was nothing in the hosue!!! LOL! It was a ton of fun! Everyone should do it at some point in thier lives. Thinking we were moving in the fall we did not look in to getting a place on base. We did fine a church that we could call home and did for the time we were there. In this time we had to say good bye to Andrew, "Matthew's twin" as he was going over sea for some time. He and his family are the ones that stayed with us for some time. They are family and we love them. So to be albe to be there for them was great. As the one year mark came up fast we found out that we were staying in 29 Palms after he was done with school, he would just go to a unit there, and at this time we found out that we were having our first baby!
Than the day came and we knew it would one year, and we did not have a ton of money but I said that I would do something nice for him. So why we was at school I clean the house and made him what I was thinking was his favorite dinner (more on that later) and I found the box that had our wedding things in it and place the things around the house. And with no table to eat at we ate on the living room floor.
I remember thinking that it was a bad year and there was nothing gret about it. But now looking back on it, it was a time of grow in us away from our family. We were able to grow in our walk. And it gave us just some time to get to know how to live together.
Year two to come next!!
After getting back from boot camp were back in Michigan we had ten days together beofre he had to go to work. And going to work was not all that bad. He was home for a month right over Christmas very nice!!! Then he was back to Cali for more training and I stayed back in Michigan. After his month he was move to school and would be there for some time so I was able to go!! Talk about being happy! It was still in Cali just north of where he was in a place called 29 palms. I made it out there in March on the 5th. It maybe the hardest thing I had to do in our first year of being married.
And with all of that in the first 6 month of being married we were together less than 2 months of that. But now we were together and had our own place it was great we were just out there for school so we did not need anything to big, but after having Matthew best friend high school and his family and little bigger place would have been nice. OOO and the whole time they were with us there was nothing in the hosue!!! LOL! It was a ton of fun! Everyone should do it at some point in thier lives. Thinking we were moving in the fall we did not look in to getting a place on base. We did fine a church that we could call home and did for the time we were there. In this time we had to say good bye to Andrew, "Matthew's twin" as he was going over sea for some time. He and his family are the ones that stayed with us for some time. They are family and we love them. So to be albe to be there for them was great. As the one year mark came up fast we found out that we were staying in 29 Palms after he was done with school, he would just go to a unit there, and at this time we found out that we were having our first baby!
Than the day came and we knew it would one year, and we did not have a ton of money but I said that I would do something nice for him. So why we was at school I clean the house and made him what I was thinking was his favorite dinner (more on that later) and I found the box that had our wedding things in it and place the things around the house. And with no table to eat at we ate on the living room floor.
I remember thinking that it was a bad year and there was nothing gret about it. But now looking back on it, it was a time of grow in us away from our family. We were able to grow in our walk. And it gave us just some time to get to know how to live together.
Year two to come next!!
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