"If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you've made a friend. If he won't listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won't listen, tell the church. If he won't listen to the church, you'll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God's forgiving love.
God has put this on our heart that we need to teach our kids this so they will know the way to deal with others that hurt them. As of right now with our girls being 5 and 2 we need to help them a lot with this. But Jessalla (our 5 year old) has it and dose it mostly by herself. We also want them to know that this is how they should go to anyone, not just other believers. And it's made life easyer for me, I'm not havving to get in to all their little "she said" talks, or the little "hits" that go on every day. If I do I know what I have to say and it's the same each time.
But with that said this is not a free pass to get out of having to step in and do my part in I'm needed. And this also means I get to listen to them over the smallest thing tell the other that hurt my feelings and I would like it that you would not do that again. And if it's Jessalla that was hurt, she will go on to tell Eammah do you remember Matthew 18:15? It said "If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you." And that means you need to tell me sorry! Well not what she should say, but it's still a plan in the works.
So till we have it 100% we will need God's help. And knowing that we will never have it 100% we will always need God's help. But by putting this few verse to memory it will only help us! Take the time to put verse to your memory that God places on your heart. There is a reason why he put them there that we may or may not know at the time.
